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ConTest: Double Life Review

2011-09-09T08:46:00.000-07:00

ConTest: Double Life by Raheim Brooks

As submitted by me to Writer's Vibe Magazine.

Justice Lorenzo, an extraordinary character, a masterful felon with many tricks up his sleeve that could scare the average identity theft victim has real charisma. He undoubtedly knows his way around the criminal sector of life and has manipulated this way of life to cater to his needs and wants. As his arrogance, snappy responses and knowledge of the law make him a believably cocky character he is also smart, crafty and resourceful. Mr. Brooks did a good job getting us to believe that this man is unscrupulous.

William Fortune, another hot character who has the charm and money to swoon most women of destitute manner, but he has an award winning wife who is by no other standards a Ride-Or-Die chick. Her high profile job and beauty would cripple the ego of an insecure man, but not William Fortune. He’s a Best Selling criminal writer who happens to have a really close connection to Justice Lorenzo, whose life he is bringing to the pages of every manuscript in his writing career. No wonder the story is so good, it’s fiction based on reality.

This book is truly a gem of a plot filled with deception and mystery but the writing style of the author is quite complex. Numerous chapters ended at points that left the reader wondering what just happened, especially since it never picked up until the later chapters where Mr. Brooks pulled the loose ends together. A plus side is that each chapter was short (no more than 4 pages) which gave the reader great breakpoints and a feel that they were progressing through the book.

Another reference point to this book that I need to mention is how at times the author had so much to say about a scene that when it hit the paper, it didn’t flow as smoothly as the reader would want it to.

On page 193, “William continued to drive away from Silverstein’s in an emergency situation. Dire. In that post-9/11 society everyone had a practiced method to handle all emergencies. He responded to his alarm going off as quickly as inmates in a California pen hitting the ground when a tower guard yelled, “Yard Down!” If that was true, why was William dragged out of his car at gun point by a masked man. A man that he didn’t not know……”

This excerpt let me asking these questions: Why do we have a post 9/11 reference? What alarm, I thought the man was driving? Why are we talking about jail calls when you just told me about 9/11? If he is driving how did he get pulled out his car? If the man was masked, how would he know who it is?

All in all, I liked the plot and what Mr. Brooks seemingly has to offer the literary community but editing and scene fluidity needs to improve.

Ace of Spade Review

2011-09-09T08:43:00.001-07:00

Ace of Hearts by Jean Holloway

This first book in what the author affectionately calls the Deck of Cards series has really captivated my interest because it was a very easy read. It moved along at a reasonable pace which allowed me to understand and feel for the minor characters. The author did a great job incorporating likeable characters among the deadliest phenoms she brought to life. I would have liked to have seen the main characters more developed historically so that I actually know why they interacted the way that they did.

For a few readers, the book may appear full of murder and sex. But I assure you, there is enough suspense to envelope the entire book as the sinister deeds of maraud happen in the first 10 pages.

As the first African American female officer to lead her department, Detective Shevaughn Robinson experienced the most tempestuous day of her career. Basically, she meets the most alluring reporter that she has ever met who wants to get to know her in all senses of knowing. Despite the fact that during her interview with this attractive Caucasian, she is then presented with a case that just might make-or-break her career. A serial killer is on the prowl and he’s looking to meet a dream name Shevaughn.

A mastermind of sorts that absolutely has no mind left is the other main character of the story. Well actually, he is the story. Eric Becker a wealthy executive for an advertising firm, who is more secure with his corner office than he is with his sexual prowess. That is, until he got a taste of what really drives him wild. With Eric’s undeniable power and financial resources he gets more and more determined to quench his thirst for total domination over his intended targets. His appetite of desire takes a strong constitution to handle but an even stronger constitution to read, as he takes S&M to a whole other level.

The reader can’t help but exhibit mixed emotions when reading each fetish scene.

Based on the ending of this book, and despite the fact that at times the storyline can be predicted, I would strongly recommend reading this book and the next installment to see how Jean Holloway continues the drama.

Valentine Review by D.V. Hent

2011-08-10T19:25:00.000-07:00

Valentine was hot, sexy and fast paced and yet seemed like a primetime movie on Sunday nights when Sunday's use to be great TV drama night. The heroin named Charlie who was the most annoying character I had ever read. But as the reader I wanted her to have her just deserved vengeance on those that wronged her. However I didn't care for her overly zealous moral fiber that clearly made her a closet bi-curious woman. The author did a superb job of creating a female character with mixed emotions and who evoked mixed emotions.

My favorite character is the villainous vixen, known as Valentine, who was actually a hero that exuded a “bad girl” disposition. And I use that term very loosely. This woman was the pistol packing, knob slobbing, sexual deviant law breaker of the century. But with all her assets, crafts and technology it was hard to believe that she was unbreakable.

Between car chases, shoot outs, explosions and a death sentence, the author had Valentine virtually walking away unscathed. Although if you sit back and reflect on the events of the book it may seem unbelievable but is easily ignored due to the intensity of each scene.

As an assassin, predicting habit is expected but Valentine predicted habit and the future. This was truly a story for television, maybe even a cable series. A page turner to read, I really didn’t want to see this story end. There were a few editing mishaps but nothing that required a second look. The sarcastic banter was appropriately placed throughout the book and the sexual passages were not overly done to be misconstrued as lust or smut.

This was a well rolled out storyline with a twist at the end. I truly enjoyed the book and its characters (no matter how annoyed I got. But I could not help but thinking "Wow, this should be on TV."

You can take it as a good thing or a bad thing but I recommend you get a copy of Valentine to experience what power, money, sex, drama and sacrifice has to offer.

We Are Moving.

2011-08-09T10:53:00.000-07:00

I decided to develop my own website that will host all the same stuff as this page and my Facebook pages combined and many more features. If you didn't know, you need to ask somebody. The Daring Show is moving all over the internet. New website is up and running. Come check us out. Tell people and join the page.

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July 29 Weekend Reading

2011-07-29T11:59:00.000-07:00

Love Torn Asunder by Elizabeth Funderbirk

AMAZON PURCHASE

In a battle of Ying and Yang, Leslie learns all about consequences. Allowing that part of her heart led by insecurities, Leslie makes decisions that will disrupt the very foundation she has built her life around. In an attempt to regain Balance she is faced with hard choices. That will not only impact the course of her life but those around her. While going along with Leslie on the bumpy road to Realization and Redemption. She is sure to make you re-think your outlook on Love, Lust and Loyalty.

Murderville: First of a Trilogy by Ashley & JaQuavis AMAZON PURCHASE

Two children from Sierra Leone, Liberty and A’shai, are brought together by chance only to be forced apart by the most inevitable and tragic fate. Ashley and JaQuavis bring us this classic love story set against modern life’s most horrifying realities.

Liberty is dying of a fatal heart condition, though she desperately wants to survive until her 25th birthday when her sister has promised to visit her. A’shai blames himself for not protecting Liberty, but all Liberty asks is for A’shai to tell her a story, to help her remember what brought them to this point. He knows that this is the last story he will ever tell and the last she will ever hear.

As Liberty lies dying, A’shai walks her though their past, reliving their ill-fated journeys through the streets. Their story will take them from an arranged marriage, through Mexico’s drug cartel, child brothels, hustling in Detroit, to escaping the high-powered heads of L.A.’s underworld. But ultimately, this is a story of love and redemption that will leave you breathless from the unpredictable and mind-blowing ending.

Author Laura T. Johnson
Where Would I Be

Once separated by time and iron bars James is now back and claiming to be a changed man. But for every time Lisa says "no" a little more of who he really is resurfaces. James Harris is the man Lisa Jenson thought she would marry. He turned out to be the man who would almost kill her. Twice! Where Would I Be....on Kindle/Nook August 2nd!!!

Kindle version of Yesterday's Lies on sale for $2.99 on Amazon this weekend. Download yours today. No Kindle? No worries you can download free app to read the book on your PC

Yesterday's Lies

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What Secrets Do You Keep From The One You Share Everything With? Secrets. Lies. Half-Truths. A poignant tale of a circle of close knit friends whose lives are more intertwined than they realize. That is until the blurred lines of Love, Lust and Friendship begins to reveal the half-truths and lies...

Single and a Mom

2011-07-25T09:44:00.000-07:00

After much criticism and debate with other people in my position, here I am again trying to defend something that doesn’t make much sense to me. Single Mommyhood. It’s a shame because that isn’t even a word. I typed it and my spell check went crazy.

But all in all here I am defending my position against those that ridicule and mind fornicate me into believing that this was a conscious choice I made, to be where I am and how I am. In some respect they are right, because I CHOSE not to abort….but that is another topic.

With statistics that say my child has a higher rate of imprisonment, early copulation, multiple sexual partners, anger management issues, gang affiliations, social disconnections, minimal moral character, lower test scores and all around being an educational failure. Why would any woman WANT to be a single mom?

Although it seems the odds are stacked against us, we top off our persecution with a question and answer session about the fathom man and his whereabouts. As I silently contemplated my response, I wanted to say “That ghetto euphemism

crapped out, and lost the testicles he held on to so dearly, when trying to get me to believe that he was a real man.”

But instead I said “Baby your dad is a busy man who’s gotta work out some things within himself”. That was some nice defecation for a youngster to absorb, but instead of that being that, God gave me a child with a brain that has working synapses who continued to make me regret my sexual choices. I don’t know how they do it but man o man they do it with such eloquence.

Like a locomotive, he began to roll full steam ahead with one question after another, as I shook my head and reached for my glass of brown poison. “Well mom what is he busy doing? Little Johnny’s dad always come to our recitals, did you invite my dad? When can he come visit or can we go see him?” and the worse one of them all, “Mom, are you the only family I got?”

CRACK!!!! My heart just broke.

For a single mom the fate of our child/ren is the most important decision making catalyst we have. Many would have you believe that single moms are the reason that our society is in shambles but I don’t agree. Now, there will be some men who read this and not understand or like what I’m saying. And that is okay because the truth is often the hardest thing to accept and equally hard to hear. Truth has no beauty in it and it has no outspoken recognizable friends. It is however one vessel of empowerment and is guilt free.

But in order to combat an epidemic that according to most is the plight of African American cultures, it is necessary to tell the truth, and to accept your role in the demise of the race. A lot of single moms are that way because of divorce, their spouse died, or they just don’t want to expose their child/ren to random men. All of these things are understandable and noble reasons, however when the generalization is made, these noble moms get clumped with the bad specimens that use their uterus as a high paying job with vacation benefits.

There are good moms and not-so-good moms and respect is owed to those that are putting in the work instead of running away from their responsibilities and exalting in the ecstasy which bore fruit from those 30 minutes of sexual labor. Some of us chose to hold our head up high to nurture and cultivate the future we created and for that, you as the onlooker should be building our esteem, not tearing it down.

Society loves to focus on the negative, giving them all the attention that is undeserving of them and yet those that would appreciate an ounce of consideration are still waiting on our just due.

I write this article not to beat a dead horse or to dispel the validity of any statistics but I’m writing this article to say that despite popular belief most women don’t aim to be a single parent and most don’t even like it. However it is a necessary evil and those of us that are doing our best and making the sacrifices for our children would appreciate if you back up off our coattails with the negative statistics, connotations and stereotypes. In your backlash of single mommyhood it would probably be more beneficial if you aimed your rhetoric to a specific model, maybe even check those in your own family.

So in closing put that in your statistical pipe and smoke it! Because I’m one of many single moms and proud of it and we will prove your negative analysis of us to be, not valid; without force or foundation and indefensible. Real Single Moms Holding it Down, UNITE!!! If we don’t do it, who will?

Even Numbers Review

2011-07-15T12:04:00.000-07:00

In 144 pages, my soul was traumatized!

144 pages?

Yep 144 pages filled with drama and misery moved me to the point of irreconcilable frustration. The author was successful in detailing the cyclic effects of child molestation and low self esteem in this unique book titled Even Numbers.

Have you ever wanted to be a fly on the wall? I know I did. And I think it’s safe to assume that Author Barbara Grovner did too. As Even Numbers is told from the perspective of a fly you can’t help but feel as helpless as the fly did as the story unfolds. His wings were tied just like my hands, as I read a story that made me want to be the protector of all children against the child predators of the world.

James, Dominga and Olivia lend a hand to the author in painting a picture of an enormous amount of needy women that ignore or are unaware of the consequences their low self esteem attributes to. As the reader follows the predator through the dark world of desperation for his next victim, the author drops clues and hints to the mindset of such a creature.

Since this book is a quick read, I won’t tell much of the story line, but I will say that on a grand scale of things this narrative has multiple purposes. Not only does it entertain but it educates, it serves to be a channel for many girls and women to be able to relate without negative connotations, guilt or shame and to serve as a reminder that there is a need for everyone to be vigilant against the secret society of pedophiles.

July 15 Weekend Reading #3

2011-07-15T08:20:00.000-07:00

Harlem Girl Lost 2

www.amazon.com

What if You Could Take it All Back? Jessica Jones never thought living her teenage dream would lead to a living nightmare. When she and her three best friends venture out on prom night, they’re drunk on young love and excited for their college plans. But a tragic inciden...

July 15 Weekend Reading #2

2011-07-15T08:17:00.000-07:00

FOR LOVE OR MONEY?"

Read this only extraordinary drama-filled, explosive and captivating book! Tell us what would you do "For Love or Money?" We can't wait to see what you would do or which one you would choose!

July 15 Weekend Reading #1

2011-07-15T08:07:00.000-07:00

Are there any faithful partners out there? Certainly not in "Two Timers" by L.A. Smith. A collection of 6 hot short stories on Kindle & Nook for $.99. Muah!

Two Timers

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This anthology contains six short stories about unfaithfulness in relationships. The Substitute. Brad had everything going for himself except a wife. He and Alison had been together since high school so it was perfect that the two tie the knot. But only one obstacle stands in the way of .....

July 8 Weekend Reading #4

2011-07-08T08:38:00.000-07:00

EVEN NUMBERS

www.amazon.com

Who better than a fly on the wall, to tell this narrative tale? After all a fly would have the best seat in the house when it comes to spying on a family, and things aren’t always as they seem, particularly in this home. After Dominga’s first husband abandoned her and their little g...

July 8 Weekend Reading #3

2011-07-08T08:25:00.000-07:00

Two good friends, both killers...One is a cop, the other masquerades as an escort. As one discovers who the other truly is, a decision must be made. Now, one of them can't live while the other knows the truth. With 5-stars from OOSA, AAMBC and a host of others, Valentine is the perfect summertime read.

Valentine

www.amazon.com

Sassia Santinos loves her life. She's carefree, financially independent and most importantly, sexually adventurous. Loving her job as an 'executive companion', she seems not to have a care in the world. But unknown to everyone, Sassia has a secret: she's an assassin by the name of Valentine. C...

July 8 Weekend Reading #2

2011-07-08T08:18:00.000-07:00

Crossroads: An Anthology

www.amazon.com

Welcome to the Morning Perk, the best place in the neighborhood to grab a bite to eat, network, meet and mingle. The hustle and bustle as the traffic from every walk of life passes through its doors gives insight into four intriguing stories of love, lust, revenge, jealousy, and murder. Meet ...

July 8 Weekend Reading #1

2011-07-08T08:14:00.000-07:00

The sample doesn't do it justice, however every taste is different, check this out and judge for yourself. Thanks Black Angle

Tattered Obsessions

www.amazon.com

Criminal attorney, Victor Rowe finds himself defending the man accused of murdering his girlfriend Erion Banks', former lover and the father of her only child. Victor wants to make her his wife but does she share the same feelings? Business owner Keon 'KC' Carter is caught betwee...

IMF gets off of house arrest? WTH!

2011-07-01T09:22:00.001-07:00

http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/43600818/ns/us_news-crime_and_courts/?GT1=43006

NBA Lock Out

2011-07-01T09:13:00.001-07:00

http://msn.foxsports.com/nba/story/NBA-locked-out-after-failing-to-reach-new-deal-on-collective-bargaining-agreement-063011?gt1=39002

MPire: In Search of the Lost and MPire: Death Cometh

2011-06-22T13:06:00.001-07:00

When the Lamb opened the fourth seal, I heard the voice of the fourth living creature say, “Come!” I looked, and there before me was a pale horse! Its rider was named Death, and Hades was following close behind him. They were given power over a fourth of the earth to kill by sword, famine and plague, and by the wild beasts of the earth. Revelations 6:7-8 NIV

It seems that I never thought I could read 2 books in a week. But when the stories are as intriguing and drama filled like the ones I read, it is very easy to do. MPire: In Search of the Lost and MPire: Death Cometh had my neighborhood burning and household items hitting the floor all by themselves, literally. Now although I don’t believe in the supernatural so to speak, I do believe there are things out of our control that we can’t explain.

And this is where these books and its main character come in. After falling in love with Mallory Haulm and his soul searching 4th horseman status known as Death. I’ve determined I need to get my life in order. Or at least put it in alignment with something. Many of the reviews of this series so far have talked about the story but I’ve found the characters are far more entertaining than the storyline.

Those brave enough to have read the book of revelations, have an idea about the story of Armageddon, but TL James has brought a humanistic side to the key players of that story. She has given them trials and tribulations and even the occasional question of doubt.

Mallory Haulm is searching for his soul and is the taker of other souls. He doesn’t take his charge lightly but he doesn’t understand why he can't walk away from it. He is bombarded with childhood disasters, whorish tendencies and his occasional sexual preference indecisiveness. But all in all, his external persona is magnificent and is a very realistic character as we all know those that LOOK well put together on the outside and are a wreck waiting to happen internally.

His brother Marek another character driven by guilt is quite mixed on the emotional front. He is the horseman of War, but when it comes to his baby brother he is all love.

Marc is Pestilence and is one evil bastard, while Marlon is Famine and is the only underdeveloped character of the book. And Malcolm, the father of one but the hater of all, he is the precious 4th horseman that will not relinquish himself to his son because he knows he will be a dead man if he does.

This book is full of quick wit and comedic dialogue. However if you are not comfortable with twisting religious ideology, homosexuality, murder, incest, and profanity, then you may want to select another book, like crochet.

But I highly recommend this series because it's fresh and fast paced. Armageddon is approaching and everyone needs to be prepared for battle. Knowing your role is no longer enough, you have to be able to defend it. Do you know what side you will sit on?

‎"It's amazing how you can walk through life and not know anything." From MPire Death Cometh-Mallory Haulm

American Chain Gang!

2011-06-22T08:29:00.000-07:00

What are your thoughts on this immigrants being cheap labor. Or the fact that black people aren't considered or the fact that prisoners are doing it......Let's converse.

http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20110622/ap_on_re_us/us_food_and_farm_probation_harvesters

Another Snake has entered the arena!

2011-06-16T10:41:00.000-07:00

Al-Qaida's new boss.....

http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/43425216/ns/world_news-south_and_central_asia

Another Ignorant Outburst by an Elected Official.

2011-06-15T14:16:00.001-07:00

Ohio Governer's Proclamation against Lebron James

http://www.toledoblade.com/Pro/2011/06/13/Kasich-issues-proclamation-making-Mavericks-honorary-Ohioans.html

Rest In Peace Ashlyn Horry, daughter of NBA Star Robert Horry

2011-06-15T14:14:00.000-07:00

http://sports.yahoo.com/nba/blog/ball_dont_lie/post/Teenage-daughter-of-Robert-Horry-dies-after-life?urn=nba-wp5053

The Frog Pond Review

2011-06-14T07:57:00.000-07:00

I know what I can say about The Frog Pond and I know what I shouldn’t say about it but one thing is for sure, it was definitely a storyline of such that I’ve never read before. It opened with a violently dramatic sex scene that would leave most people shuddering in their skin and reaching for their bibles to pray for the soul of the author. Needless to say, I didn’t do that.But I was captivated from that point forward to get to the root of what transpired to cause such an opening.

One drawback to the book is that it had too many characters in the story. For many readers the beginning chapters could be hard to follow. Even though each character has a connection to another you can easily be swept away by the unimportant characters and their storylines, but that soon changes after the first few chapters.

As I continued on my mission of reading this provocative and sexually explicit drama while it unraveled, I became quite pleased with the outcome and how the story molded itself together.

The world’s view of professional sports and its players may never be the same because of the stories depicted in this book. It is almost as if the author had insight into the sport and sport management industries because it was just that believable. The secret societies, the homophobic cover-ups, and the down low nation in all its glory, have set the back drop for the tale of the main characters Anderijo and his love Denard.

But the main story that lies between the obsessions of these men was the story that speaks volumes of knowing and being comfortable with who you are as a person. Recognizing and admitting to your insecurities, mending broken childhood pain and of course acceptance and love.

Within the murders, sex, incest, adultery and sports, I really appreciate the effort the author put in trying to pull together real life events into a society many feel, live in perfection. Thank you Author Otis Randolf for a well written story.

With the plot thickening like a great nighttime drama on TV, this book leaves a cliffhanger that hopefully book two will solve for all those loose ends left behind. I enjoyed reading this book and wish many more successfully controversial books from Otis Randolf. The Frog Pond is a must get for the not faint at heart. PHEInk Publishing has done it again.

Rising college costs price out middle class - Jun. 13, 2011

2011-06-13T08:34:00.000-07:00

How are you preparing to combat the cost of education for your children?

Rising college costs price out middle class - Jun. 13, 2011

The North Face parent to buy Timberland for $2 billion - Jun. 13, 2011

2011-06-13T08:32:00.000-07:00

The North Face parent to buy Timberland for $2 billion - Jun. 13, 2011

Black or White?

2011-06-07T09:35:00.000-07:00

For my blog, I'm usually not an advocate of promoting another blog but I must say, I took a lot of interest in the opinion that this person expressed about Black and White Fiction. Take a look at it and voice your opinion on his page or mine. But this is definitely something to think about.

Marketing ploy or Racial profiling, you be the judge!

http://www.upauthors.com/%E2%80%9C/black-white-fiction%E2%80%9D

What Side of the Debate do you Sit, on Charter Schools?

2011-06-06T08:20:00.000-07:00

Many say it's a waste of money and resources. Many say they are better than public schools and equip the students with better teachers because they can be privately run. Huffington Post has a series of articles on this topic, because education is a hot topic in every state across the country. But I only wanted to pick one that was close to home. Wanna know what I think? Just ask, LOL.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2011/06/03/charter-school-challenges_n_871163.html

I Applaud a Teacher That Takes Action on an Unruly Student

2011-06-06T07:58:00.000-07:00

John Edwards charged in felony indictment

2011-06-03T07:26:00.000-07:00

A federal grand jury has indicted two-time presidential candidate John Edwards over massive sums of money spent to keep his mistress in hiding during the peak of his 2008 campaign for the White House.

http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/43260386/ns/politics-more_politics/t/john-edwards-charged-felony-indictment/from/toolbar

Man stopped for DUI on day he’s to be sentenced for DUI - The SouthtownStar

2011-06-02T19:11:00.000-07:00

Here is another example of an ass needing to be kicked.....smh
Man stopped for DUI on day he’s to be sentenced for DUI - The SouthtownStar

Man catches ball but drops baby.

2011-06-02T19:05:00.000-07:00

Some folks need more than Jesus. A swift kick in the keyster would be appropriate. Let me know what you think.

I’m comfortable in my skin but I don’t like that chick in the mirror.

2011-03-16T09:45:00.000-07:00

Movie stars, family members and even society tell women to be comfortable in your skin, but they forgot to send the memo to my eye balls. You see, it seems that every time they take a gander at the image in the mirror they send a distress call to my mind that ask for an immediate issue of a “vacate the premises order”.

As I shake my head and my eyes fill with salty water that want to streak the round cheeks on my face, I can’t help but wonder what happen? How did I get to the point in my development that I became the most curvaceous thing in my house? And I say thing because there is nothing else round in my house, but according to some clothing websites I’m rectangle.

Rectangle? Really, another flippin shape, wonderful! As more thoughts fill my mind, I can’t tear my eyes away from the mirror that is taunting me with every menacing reflection of the dimple here and the dent there. I mean really, how many dents and dimples does a person need? I’m a work of art, sculpted even, but it looks like the creator isn’t finished. But yet, I stand there and gather my physical appearance so I can say “I’m comfortable in my skin” and leave the bathroom.

As my day progresses and it just happens to be approaching the weekend I’m invited to various parties and gatherings. I’m elated that people think enough of me to want me around, I mean why wouldn’t they because I’m great to be around. But in the back of my mind, the brain is saying to decline, decline now and spare myself the aggravation. Make up some story about a prior engagement, sick kid at home or something, and as I fix my full lips to utter the words I realized I dodged the bullet last time and this time I have to go.

Back to shaking my head.

Pretty soon my head is going to fall off because I keep shaking it all the time. The reason I should/need/want to decline is because now I gotta find something to wear on this masterpiece of unfinished sculpture.

Still shaking.

Work day over and off to the house to plan my wardrobe for the start of the festivities for the weekend. But first, pit stop V-line to the Wii to dance some pounds (preferably inches) away. After 30 minutes of Twist and Shout and my sad interpretation of Michael Jackson moves, I hit the shower, avoiding the onlooker that looks like me.

I’m good and ready to put on that stunna top with the sexy jeans that have been in the closet since I bought them. “Hold it…..Hold it”, turning blue trying to button the damn jeans, so how sexy is that? Next move, peel them off and put on a body foundation garment. Okay now the hunt is on for the only item guaranteed to get my round bodacious curvy buttocks in them jeans.

“Gotcha!” Mission accomplished, after painting on the famously infamous body shaper I feel like Mike Tyson on those jeans. I’m the conqueror! Got them on and buttoned. Got the shirt on and laced and then I head to the mirror. I take a gander in the mirror and DAMN! What was once bodacious and curvy is now a solid mass of square. I mean, I know I’m a rectangle with dents and dimples but really, in 3D?

Well too late to fix it, this is going to have to do and I’m going to have to be “comfortable in my skin” yet once again. I love me really I do, but at times the reflection reminds me of the insecurities that caused me to become the specimen I am. All the rejections and comparisons, all the you’re great but you can always be better, have caused me to become a walking food taster. I see it, I gotta taste it, and don’t smell really good.

Shaking Shaking

Alright never mind, makeup on, killer shoes and accessories checked. Out the door I head for an evening of phony smiles and cordial hellos.

At the lounge swiveling in my chair taking in the scene on the dance floor sipping on my moscato, the inviters come over to say hello and say how nice I look. I sheepishly say thank you, and make up an excuse for my otherwise out of character attire, “Yea girl, I clean up well, don’t I?” Although I really don’t care about the answer I do want the crowd’s verbal confirmation of approval of my comment.

Talk about contradiction. Shaking.

As I sit and ponder on the exchange, I really want confirmation from a man to say how nice I look. It’s almost as if, it’s not real until HE says it. But as I sit and wait and my yearning to hear a voice deeper than mine play tag with my esteem I really do wonder to myself, am I really comfortable with the skin I’m in or am I wishing the skin was thicker so I wouldn’t care if the compliments are fake or not?

In the Memory of the Young

2010-11-22T12:09:00.001-08:00

The death of a child is happening more and more these days and for no reason. Whether it directly affects you or indirectly it is a cause for adults to fight for. But during this holiday season there are some parents who have lost their children to the pandemic that is plaguing our cities. Not every case is an absent father, or cracked out mom. Despite popular belief there are parents doing the best they can by their children, but for whatever reason, their children CHOSE to do something different. Then there are the innocent bystanders that are caught in the mist of the societal destruction at the hands of youth idiosyncrasies. Is it right? NO! Is it fair? NO! Is it happening? Absolutely.

Easing the pain that a parent feels is not an easy task and for some will never happen. But thanks to Patricia Loder, a twice-bereaved parent and executive director of The Compassionate Friends, a national self-help bereavement organization for families going through the natural grieving process after the death of a child, says there are many ways others can help the grieving family to remember that child during the holidays.

1. Write down memories -- especially funny stories -- of the child to give to the family. Try to get others who knew the child to write a story and then make a scrapbook for the family that can be added to in the future.

2. Encourage the family to talk about the child, while understanding that some tears may fall -- a tribute to the child who died.

3. Share photos or videos of the child with the family that they may not have seen before.

4. "Adopt a child" for the holidays by giving gifts in remembrance of the child who died. Notify the family.

5. If you send a card, make certain to mention that you're thinking of the child (by name), even if it's been many years since the child died.

6. Give the family an ornament that in some way will remind the family of the child.

7. Give the family time and space so they can handle the holidays in a manner that works for them. Be understanding.

8. Invite the family to participate in The Compassionate Friends Worldwide Candle Lighting the second Sunday in December, whether by attending a service or lighting a candle for an hour at home.

9. Make a donation to a favorite charity in honor of the child.

The Compassionate Friends has nearly 625 chapters in the United States offering support to bereaved families during this difficult time of the year and all year long. The organization, in conjunction with other groups globally, sponsors a Worldwide Candle Lighting the second Sunday in December with hundreds of services open to the public. Visit TCF's national website for a list of what will total more than 500 services submitted from around the world that are open to the public. Call toll-free 877-969-0010 or visit them on the Web at http://www.compassionatefriends.org. Also on Facebook at The Compassionate Friends/USA.

So The Daring Show would like to show our support for these families by listing the child’s name In Loving Remembrance. So every time you watch the news or listen to the radio and you hear of a child’s life who has expired list their name on this discussion board. You never know who this touches and during the holiday season, we don’t want families to feel alone.

Thank you for your support.

In Loving Remembrance

Donating Gently Used Toys

2010-11-18T11:50:00.000-08:00

Consider being a bright light in an otherwise dim tunnel. As you prepare for the gift giving season, we are constantly reminded that some children will not be able to celebrate Christmas with toys. Either the parent isn’t working or isn’t making enough.

Short story: My mother called me to tell me that a kid just came by the house and wanted to rake the leaves….. (First just the fact that a kid now-a-days wanted to EARN money by doing something domestic was a surprise to me)….. So I asked her had she seen him before and how much was he charging. She said $5 and no he didn’t look familiar. So I went home to see this youngster and to my surprise he was doing a good job. He went to a neighborhood public school and he still had on his uniform. He wore braids and he was about 4 feet tall. The rake was bigger than he was. I asked him if needed a bag and he sheepishly said no and pulled out a roll of plastic bags from his pocket.

He told me he was in the 4^th grade, which would make him about 10 or 11 years old. As he keep raking and taking a break and raking and breaking I couldn’t help but wonder why he needed the money and at $5 a lawn. We know that other people charge $10 a week and they blow the leaves away. But something about this little boy got my attention. At the rate he was going he would only be able to do 1 maybe 2 houses a day. So I asked him what he was trying to earn money for and he said (wait for it)………………. “I want to earn money to buy my family some Christmas gifts”. Tear.

I was hooked. This young lad, was trying to do something that a lot of grown people won’t do or are too proud to do and that was EARN his way until he could do better. And for that and his earnest effort to do things the right way, I gave him $20 and told him don’t tell the lady in the house, just consider it a gift. Even with that money in his pocket he continued to finish the job. When I told my mom about what the boy told me she gave him $10. So for a days work and lifelong ability of using his brain that boy earned $30 from one house. I’m appreciative of what he provided to me that day and that was hope that all isn’t lost.

Sooo, since the season is coming and most of us can’t afford to contribute to every toy drive and yet want to do our part to help others…. give to other kids what that child gave to me, Hope!

Here are some feel good ideas that would not only help those that need it, put a smile on a kids face and de-clutter your home…..

Donate Gently Used Toys:

Police, Fire Stations & Hospitals: Call your local fire station or police department. Often, the officers carry a stuffed animal or two with them in the vehicles to give to upset or scared children as a way to calm them and distract them from their situation.

Women's Shelters & Homeless Shelters: Call your local shelters to see if they have a need for gently used toys at their facilities. Often times, they have a play room or allow kids to "check out" various games and toys to use in their area during their stay.

Charities: Service charities often have a play room that is stocked with gently used toys to keep children amused while parents meet with the staff.

Schools & Libraries: Schools and libraries can often use books and puzzles if they are in good shape with nothing torn or missing. Call ahead to ask if they can put your items to good use.

Salvation Army, Goodwill, other charities: Donations to these types charities help out greatly. The money raised from the sales of items goes to support the organizations programs and areas of interest.

Animal Shelters: Sometimes, animal shelters find small stuffed animals useful for their animals as cuddle toys. Stuffed animals provide comfort to an animal that may not get as much attention as it needs due to staff shortages or lack in other areas.

Dine in New York for the Holidays

2010-11-16T08:13:00.000-08:00

New York City Restaurants Offer Multi-Ethnic, Value-Centric Thanksgiving

Press Release: NEW YORK, As America's favorite holiday, Thanksgiving is embraced by the country's melting pot of races, nationalities, cultures and religions, now being reflected by the multi-ethnic orientation of restaurants offering celebratory meals incorporating traditional "Turkey Day" elements, while including nods to their culinary focus.

Especially in New York City, where ethnic restaurants that formerly ceded Thanksgiving dining to their more mainstream counterparts are remaining open this year with value-centric menus.

Witness Pera Mediterranean Brasserie, the city's most celebrated Eastern Mediterranean restaurant, with its first $49 three-course Thanksgiving celebration featuring pumpkin flatbread with house-cured lamb prosciutto offered as an appetizer option and honey-lavender glazed leg of lamb, stuffed with seasonal dried fruits, pine nuts and rosemary, accompanied by feta-cheese gratin as an alternative to the more traditional roast organic turkey; caramelized Brussels sprouts, chestnut and sausage stuffing, cranberry sauce and gravy, also on the menu.

Or the $42 four-courser from Fiorini, an Italian charmer, with butternut squash-filled ravioli with light brown butter sauce and shaved Parmigiano cheese as a starter. And Brussels sprouts lend the green to Petite Abeille's family-style service of customary roast turkey with chestnut and sage stuffing, sweet potato puree and pumpkin pie presented with a healthy side of bargain at just $25 from this popular Belgian boite.

At Pera, other Thanksgiving appetizers are pumpkin bisque with cranberry compote and grilled kale Caesar salad, Parmigiano Reggiano and imported Spanish anchovies, while hickory-grilled wild salmon with preserved lemon, crispy fried oysters, roasted tomato and pickled onion relish joins the turkey and lamb as the third entree choice. Cinnamon whipped cream adds an Eastern Mediterranean touch to the pumpkin pie dessert option; chocolate brownie Sundae, candied walnuts, and candied pumpkin vanilla ice cream is another.

For Fiorini, roasted corn squash soup with crab meat is the alternative to the ravioli for the first course. Two salads compete for second course palates - baby spinach with radicchio, pears, crispy walnuts or arugula with roasted pepper, grilled onions and Portobello mushrooms. The main event is roasted free range turkey with mushroom and sage stuffing, fresh cranberry compote, whipped sweet potatoes, harvest wild rice with mushrooms and honey glazed carrots with a plethora of pies for dessert.

And should the second helpings promised by the family-style service at Petite Abeille not satisfy Thanksgiving appetites, butternut squash ravioli with pea shoot and ham hock in split pea broth is an $8 add-on, making a three-course feast just $32.

Midtown Manhattan's Pera Mediterranean Brasserie, 303 Madison Avenue, will celebrate Thanksgiving on November 25 from 12:30 to 8:30 p.m.; call 212-878-6301 or visit http://www.peranyc.com/.

Fiorini, 209 E. 56th Street, will serve from 3 to 9:30 p.m.; call 212-308-0830 or go to http://www.fiorinirestaurant.com/.

Petite Abeille will present its family style Thanksgiving from 11 a.m. to 9 p.m.; call 212-727-1505,http://www.petiteabeille.com/.

ReGifting Goes High Tech

2010-11-16T08:08:00.000-08:00

Press Release: Embarrassed to REGIFT? Don't be. REGIFTing has become a global phenomenon. In fact, two out of three adults have already either REGIFTed or plan to REGIFT in the future.

Instead of cluttering up your closet or plunking unwanted gifts in the trash, you can use REGIFT, a new iPhone and iPod Touch App from New Jersey-based Cold Cuts Media, to keep track of them, and pass them along on your next gifting event.

Newlywed with a house full of cuckoo clocks you didn't register for? New parent with baby clothes Junior has already outgrown? Die-hard coupon clipper who hates to waste anything? REGIFT can help!

REGIFT 1.0 is the first application of its kind that will catalog the gifts you want to REGIFT, and keep record of who not to give it to. The App costs $0.99 at the iTunes App store and is available worldwide (in English for the 1.0 release).

Simple to use, REGIFT will allow you to enter a gift you've received, who gave it to you, when and why. But more than that, you can also enter who not to give it to in the future, and who you did give it to.

REGIFT will also prompt you to check for personal information in the gift, such as a card, engraving or other tell-tale signs of REGIFTing -- before you REGIFT it -- ensuring no more embarrassing REGIFTing moments.

You can finally put all those unwanted gifts, toys you already have, clothes that don't fit, and products you don't need, to good use. No need to worry about returning items, gift receipts or exchanging for something else -- simply REGIFT them -- without embarrassment! You not only save time and money, you also save face.

Feature Highlights:

-- Keep track of gifts received that you want to REGIFT
-- Add a photo of gifts to each entry
-- Keep track of who gave you each gift
-- Manage what occasions you received gifts from
-- Add notes on who NOT to give the gift to
-- Categorize all your gifts into easy to find categories
-- Mark a gift as "REGIFTed" and store it in the archives

REGIFTing Tips:

1. Never REGIFT used items -- trust us, you'll miss
that stain on the sleeve, but the recipient won't!
2. Always make sure you've removed all personal aspects
of a gift, including that store receipt from 2007!
3. Rewrap your REGIFT in attractive packaging and paper
-- never reuse the wrinkled paper you received it in!
4. Use REGIFT to keep track of your presents and avoid
embarrassing REGIFTing moments. You'll never be stuck
without a gift again.

Requirements:
Compatible with iPhone 3G/3G S and iPod Touch. Requires
iPhone OS 3.0 or Later.

Pricing and Availability:
REGIFT 1.0 is offered at the introductory price of $0.99 USD
and is available worldwide in English exclusively through
the iTunes App Store in the Lifestyle category.

Cold Cuts Media is a small, privately held company founded
in 2009 by Tina Nacrelli. Located in Jersey City, New
Jersey, Cold Cuts Media, a technology company, is focused on
iPhone and iPod Touch applications that emphasize
convenience and ease of use by delivering real, practical
solutions.

Whitney Houston - Try It On My Own

2010-11-15T08:27:00.000-08:00

Listen to Willow Smith's 'Whip My Hair' -- what do you think? - The Dish Rag - Zap2it

2010-09-09T10:50:00.000-07:00

Listen to Willow Smith's 'Whip My Hair' -- what do you think? - The Dish Rag - Zap2it

The Balcony View - Author Katrina Gurl

2010-08-17T14:47:00.000-07:00

First of all, thanks to Ms. Daring for allowing a place for new authors to display their work. She has become an intricate part of our success.

BOOK: "The Balcony View - Introduction of the Lovers" (Short Stories) by Katrina Gurl

SYNOPSIS: There are five basic stages of love:

Attraction, Romance, Passion, Intimacy and Commitment. Learn how love develops between lovers from The Balcony View as you are introduced to their lives of conflict, sexuality and dilemma. Relationships take work, patience and earnest cultivating to be successful...

The Balcony View Books will become a navigational tool for REAL RELATIONSHIPS and REAL COUPLES. The stories within each continued series may be one that you identify with. See which couple identifies with YOU.

THE EXCERPT:
Chapter One - The Balcony View
Noreen & Trent
Trent’s interest was peaked so quickly that he had no time to think…only act. He stops her in mid turn again as she’d almost reached the balcony entrance and said, “Well, I’m here for a short getaway in between a business deal so, perhaps your plans may include me if you’re here alone as I…I’d love some company.” He said in one breath.

Chapter Two - The Battle of the Sexes
Sholondrah & Langston
Sholondrah is the ONLY person known to match Langston’s wit, crucial thinking and educated quick responses. For the past six years Langston has never battled her with heartfelt confident success. Their debates always derive from the same thing, The Battle of the Sexes! She'd complain about men being very confusing in what they really wanted and he'd complain about how women had no idea what they wanted even when it stared them in the face. Langston felt he was the total package and any woman blessed to graze the likes of his arm should not only be happy, but also in honor of him choosing her.

ABOUT THE AUTHOR: Born and raised in California, Katrina spent her early years raising a family of four beautiful children and sharing life with her loving husband. She became intrested in writing during high school. Katrina's biggest dream is to create a sensual and guilt free haven for couples to enjoy the art of sensually written literature. Katrina feels that intimacy is created spiritually by God between a woman and a man through holy matrimony while respecting and honoring each others bodies. Currently, Katrina is working on continued volumes of The Balcony View Books. She plans to bring each character to life, leaving each reader wanting more in every volume.

FOR MORE INFO VISIT: http://www.thebalconyviewonline.com/

"Of This Analverse" (An Erotiq Comedy) - Chamsil

2010-08-17T14:38:00.000-07:00

Released via the web: October 2008
SYNOPSIS: Atlanta Tech University, 21st century. Jackson, Ollie, Spencer, Yushraf and Flashy are members of the ATU Basketball Team. After the team suffers a catastrophic blow, they each fall beneath the radar in order to regroup and prepare for what lies ahead...that is until one of them presents a wager that the rest feel that they just can't refuse.The campus of Atlanta Tech University will NEVER be the same again....

THE EXCERPT: Bianca had Ollie pressed up against the wall in her dorm. She was topless and wetting the side of his neck with her moist tongue. Ollie was also topless, so his torso felt every sensation of her billowy soft breasts on his skin. He couldn't help but giggle as she licked his neck. She definitely was hitting sensitive spots."I could not stop thinking about you since I saw you at the library that day." Bianca explained as she shifted to the other side of his neck in order to balance out the attention."Well, you got what you wanted. So, now it's all about what you're gonna do with it." Ollie responded."I know what I'm a do with it, alright." She stressed as she began unbuttoning his pants.Once unhinged, she reached past his boxer shorts and grabbed a firm hold of his dick and began massaging it. Ollie began breathing a little heavier as she did this to him."This is what I'm a do with it." She said as she dropped to her knees, pulling down his pants and underwear in one swoop.She put her mouth around his hard dick and deep-throated it with every inward motion. She lubed all over his dick like it was taking a bath, while repeatedly pinching and releasing the grip on one of her nipples."I know that I'm tipsy and this might actually be the liquor talking, but you taste good." Bianca expressed as she looked up at him."Damn baby. You are a straight up freak. What would your man think about what you're doing to me right now?" He asked as he looked down upon her."You let me worry about that, okay?" She responded before getting back to the task at hand."It's out of mind, effective…now." Ollie moaned as his eyes repeatedly flickered and he propped his head against the wall for support.

Eventually, they ended up in the bed that was situated just around the corner.Ollie stood on the edge of the bed with nothing on but socks and sneakers. These artifacts were simply for leverage as he fucked Bianca from the rear. Slow music, courtesy of the Late Night Snax radio show, bellowed from the clock radio that was positioned on her nightstand. She became oversaturated at a point to where Ollie felt no friction. However, over time the friction returned, which made it a more pleasurable experience for the both of them."Pull my hair." Bianca moaned as she slowly arched her neck back.Ollie grabbed a heaping helping of her hair and pulled it slightly towards him. The harder he fucked her, the louder she became. Her voice had become so elevated, that he released his grip and instructed her to bite her pillow. Once she did, he blew her back out even more.She came three times that morning. The liquor and persistent thrashing gradually took its toll, as she struggled to hold on to whatever smidgen of energy that she had left. This didn't bother Ollie in the least bit. He continued to fuck the shit out of her until he got his nut off, and lastly exited the residence. She was left sound asleep marinating in a puddle of her own love juices.
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"Of This Analverse" was independently conceptualized, created, marketed and distributed by myself, CHAMSIL, via MySpace on October 2, 2008 for FREE DOWNLOAD. It is still available for FREE and is in PDF format. The book has had over one hundred and twenty (120) downloads/distributions since its release.If interested in downloading/reading the book, please visit www.myspace.com/chamsil. You can't miss link to access the book in the blogspace. Trailers, graphics, reader reviews, etc. are viewable.Thanks for reading.With regards,--CHAMSIL (The Writer)

Baby thrown out of SUV

2010-06-10T08:49:00.000-07:00

Baby thrown out of SUV

Somebody needs an ass-whooping!!!! Immediately.

Now That's It, Gosh Darn It!!!

2010-01-05T14:22:00.000-08:00

Question of the Week: Alright! In the words of Popeye The Sailor Man – “That’s It, I’ve had all I can stand, and I can’t Stands No More!” When will the news be about something other than Tiger Woods?

Answer: It seems that the infatuation... with drama continues. This whole ordeal with Tiger Woods and his angels are playing out like a bad rash. They are all over the news, the internet and blogosphere; I believe there are more people watching him now than when he was on the greens.

Personally, I don’t care how many endorsements he loses because I still have to use the products anyway. How many of you are going to stop using AT&T or start using them? Exactly, doesn’t matter who is on the television saying that they use the product.

And how many of you have an account with Accenture because of Tiger? Accenture originated as the business and technology consulting division of accounting firm Arthur Anderson. Who in 2002 surrendered their CPA license due to being found guilty of criminal charges in relation to Enron. So I guess they are a solid representation of a strong moral fiber. (Laughing hysterically)

And then there is Gatorade, since the inception of Vitamin Water, they have been spinning their wheels, trying to get back on top of the market.

I’m not really sure how you feel about this but Tiger Woods’ financial woes are not pressing for me. When the unemployment rate in Illinois is over 10% and the housing foreclosure rate in Illinois is over 1%, Tiger Woods’ and his issues are not important. But what I have found to be important is how some media outlets have found a way to sway viewer concerns to frivolous information and away from things of major concern.

And let’s not forget about Robert Halderman, whose lawyer wrote “that if it is not a crime for Tiger Woods’ mistresses to seek payoffs for their silence, Halderman should not be charged with a crime for trying to make a deal with Letterman.” That is an ignorant outburst right there, just ignorant!

Men have been paying for the “puddy” for decades. That is Pay to Play at its finest. What Halderman was doing was extortion and is a far stretch from what Mistress #1 was doing. Ownership, needs to be grasped by all.

Tiger – You are an adulterer.

Elin - You are delusional.

Halderman – You are pathetic.

Civilization – We are clueless.

We need to worry and fix the problems in our lives and leave others alone.

“Attend your home and make it clean, through your thoughts, your words and your spirit you can influence many. Make them pure!” Excerpt from my upcoming book, Check Your Drawers.

Would You....Take Back Your Community?

2009-06-20T16:27:00.000-07:00

Welcome to my blog. I know that this has taken me a while to post, however there was a lot of wonderful comments that I wanted to include and process from my show. You can listen to my show and all follow-up shows at: www.blogtalkradio.com/thedaringshow

Suggestions from Beginning to End

1. We need to change our attitude about the children in general. They are not second class citizens and shouldn't be treated as such. They deserve to be ... heard and respected for their opinion. They need to be nurtured and they need to be dealt with on a consistent basis with a "tough love" mentality.

2. As a Christian congregation, we need to minister outside the church and focus on those that are questioning their self-worth. Those that feel they aren't worthy tend to attach themselves to those who prey on their feeling of worthlessness.

3. We need to stop complaining. That constant negative energy doesn't help your home or the people around you. That behavior breathes hatred and anxiety and a feeling of hopelessness. Action is the only avenue in which we can make our situation better.

4. Encourage our children but don't defile their efforts with belittling remarks when they don't perform or accomplish at 100%. Unlike the media who glorifies negative actions of a minority of youth we (The Reclaimers) have to highlight positive events, and achievements of our children within our family and community.

5. There are Sundays that you don't remember what the pastor's sermon was about. That's what happens when you are preached to and/or about, or you don't feel that the sermon is for you. Shut Down is all you can do. A child being preached to is the same way. So stop preaching and let them express themselves and correct inappropriate thinking.

6. Many times that violence outside the home stems from violence inside the home. One way to avert potential issues as this would be to be selective in a mate. Compatibility with children is as important and necessary for a healthy relationship as all the other standards you equate significant.

7. When was the last time you laughed and hung out with your kids? Teens can be a handful but do you know what they are talking about. Do you know who their friends are? How often do you have them over your house for a teen inspired function? Get the kids involved in activities that interest them and if presented right, you will be able to get them to do activities that you want them to do.

8. From a hard day at work, the least thing you want to do is be bothered with kids, talking and arguing etc (being kids) but the first thing you shouldn't do is paste them in front of the television. That is a cop-out. Send the kids outside to play, have them do some physical activity while you wind down. Matter of fact, tell them it's time to do their exercise regimen, and get out there with them. But if you chose to send them to the television then at least use the parental controls to monitor what they watch if you don't.

9. Volunteer your time at least once a week consistently for the betterment of kids and actually do something with them instead of just being there. Helping others will improve your attitude and will produce endorphins that will make you a happier person. If you feel that you don't have a talent then teach what you know. If you are a certified technician in anything, ask the local recreation facility if you can host a workshop for teens. In this economic time, learning a craft or trade would be very beneficial to the community.

10. Get to know your neighbors or at least something about them. I'm not saying invite them over for dinner, but get to name their names and speak when you see them. A block is harder to infiltrate when the perception is that everyone on the block is connected and may report illicit activity.

11. Consider getting a flood/spot light for your home with a motion sensor. Criminals are least likely to commit an offense in bright light when people can see them. Get a security system for your home. You will receive a discount for your homeowner's insurance but you will add another line of defense against intruders and potential violence.

12. If you see something tell it, don't sit on information that can be beneficial in stopping the crime in your neighborhood. If you are afraid of retaliation go to the police station and fill out a report. Befriend the police. Blocks that have a police presence usually have a lower crime rate as the criminals don't want to draw attention to themselves.

13. If you have a family member selling drugs, either using your home or on the street, report him or her. Don't give them a pass. Gun fire comes when one person is mad at another over money and drugs. Do you really want that kind of trouble in your home?

14. If you have a family member gang banging, it isn't totally your fault, but it is if you ignore it. When you look the other way at the actions of the youth, someone will become a victim to the idle-minded foolishness that they believe is truth. Do you want to die or do you want them to die? It will happen if you let them continue on that path of destruction. Report them also.

Our youth didn't get this way by chance. The example they were given was flawed. As a person we need to correct our behavior and then we can correct theirs. Accept and teach delayed gratification. Accept and teach respect for our investment (home, self, kids). Accept and teach responsibility for our actions and the repercussions.

We are at war in America with Americans and we need to assist others in the fight. If you constantly expect someone else to fight for you then you will always lose. Are you willing to die and face God knowing you didn't even try? How would you explain that to him?

I dare you to make a difference, and do something different.

What You Got On It? (single parent debate)

2009-04-16T13:33:00.000-07:00

I get bent out of shape about a lot of things but one thing that just burns the hell out my backside is when I hear people, especially men talk about single parenthood.

Granted there are some single fathers out there.

I’m Not Talking About You or To You.

I recently listened to a blog show of an acquaintance and the subject was about single parenthood. At this time I want to go on record as saying that when teachers asked us, the little women, ‘what do you want to be when you grow up’, our response is not “I wanna be a single parent!”

It would help the esteem and the efforts of single female parents if you would stop bashing and beating down the efforts of the parents that stood up to the challenge and stuck around.

Instead of running away from our responsibilities and exalting in the ecstasy which bore fruit from our 30 minute labor, we chose to hold our head up high to nurture and cultivate the future we created.

As a parent, society tells us to be mindful of what you tell your children. If you tell them they are stupid they will eventually believe they are stupid and inevitably stop trying to do better. What makes that situation any different when you constantly tell me that my child will end up incarcerated for murder, drug trafficking and God knows whatever else? What makes your statement any less damaging when you tell me that my child will become a woman beater and high school dropout?

Have you ever considered being mindful of the negativity that spews out of your mouth?

My suggestion to all those that have a problem with US single parents would be to:

1) Become a mentor. Not to someone you don’t know, start with your own family members. You have nieces, nephews, cousins and cousins of cousins. Heck some of you that have so much to say need to start with your own children.

2) Help establish a cost-effective, productive program that host activities for afterschool and weekends that involve not only dialogue but participation.

And if these ideas don’t appeal to you try this one.

3) Stop complaining and give a damn about someone other than yourself.

So in closing, I want to leave you with a thought. You can’t plant a seed of a tree and expect it to grow on its on. You have to turn over the soil, give it sunlight, water, fertilizer, and attention. Check on your investment and hard work; make sure the future shade you planted is growing strong and healthy. I DARE YOU, to make a difference!

Are you sure you're a Man?

2009-04-02T13:51:00.000-07:00

I have had enough of boys trying to be men. Now I’m sure you want to know what I’m talking about. Well just last week, I was in a social environment and an ex acquaintance came in with his new victim of the evening. We acknowledged each other and kept moving along.

After he got full of alcohol (Problem 1) he decided, at that moment it would be a good time to approach me and have a secret conversation (Problem 2).

Did I happen to mention that I was conversing with a gentleman at the time? Well needless to say, my ex deciding to ease right behind me and whisper in my ear (Problem 3). Only to talk about how much he liked my past sexual performances (Problem 4).

Now let me address all problems with the following statement. GROW UP, BOY!!!

Real Men can control their liquor and their actions. I know that alcohol can lose any inhibitions but then why would you have inhibitions with someone you’ve been with already? I really need for the boys of the world to respect the women they are with and respect the company that I keep.

Real Men would not openly disrespect any woman they walk into an establishment with. If you are with her, be with her. You chose her so deal with the bed you made. Don’t be disrespectful because she will sense it and eventually turn bitter. She will then run up on a good man and not recognize him. She will miss her blessing because of your retarded actions. Get a clue boys if you feel you don’t have a good woman that is probably because you are not a Man. You attract what you release.

Real Men would not have to secretly talk to anybody. They would be confident in their actions. They would also have nothing to hide from because they wouldn’t be out of line.
Get a clue, you make this dating thing much harder than it needs to be with all your sneaking.

Real Men don’t have a need to talk about how well your sexual performances were. That is a dead give-away that all you want from the woman you are talking to is sex. If you can’t find anything better to talk about then you are limited in your development.

Real Men can talk about more than just sex. They also know more about life than just sex.
If I would have slapped the taste out his mouth then I would have been wrong, but at least for once I would have been satisfied. You are an EX for a reason, not a season, but for a lifetime.

Come to terms with that and move on. Real Women don’t play with other folks kids. Please let the testicles hang, walk with some pride and represent a character of undisputable decorum. If you don’t want a crackhead, then stop acting like one.

This is my opinion and you are welcome to express your own. I Dare You!