What You Got On It? (single parent debate)

I get bent out of shape about a lot of things but one thing that just burns the hell out my backside is when I hear people, especially men talk about single parenthood.

Granted there are some single fathers out there.

I’m Not Talking About You or To You.

I recently listened to a blog show of an acquaintance and the subject was about single parenthood. At this time I want to go on record as saying that when teachers asked us, the little women, ‘what do you want to be when you grow up’, our response is not “I wanna be a single parent!”

It would help the esteem and the efforts of single female parents if you would stop bashing and beating down the efforts of the parents that stood up to the challenge and stuck around.

Instead of running away from our responsibilities and exalting in the ecstasy which bore fruit from our 30 minute labor, we chose to hold our head up high to nurture and cultivate the future we created.

As a parent, society tells us to be mindful of what you tell your children. If you tell them they are stupid they will eventually believe they are stupid and inevitably stop trying to do better. What makes that situation any different when you constantly tell me that my child will end up incarcerated for murder, drug trafficking and God knows whatever else? What makes your statement any less damaging when you tell me that my child will become a woman beater and high school dropout?

Have you ever considered being mindful of the negativity that spews out of your mouth?

My suggestion to all those that have a problem with US single parents would be to:

1) Become a mentor. Not to someone you don’t know, start with your own family members. You have nieces, nephews, cousins and cousins of cousins. Heck some of you that have so much to say need to start with your own children.

2) Help establish a cost-effective, productive program that host activities for afterschool and weekends that involve not only dialogue but participation.

And if these ideas don’t appeal to you try this one.

3) Stop complaining and give a damn about someone other than yourself.

So in closing, I want to leave you with a thought. You can’t plant a seed of a tree and expect it to grow on its on. You have to turn over the soil, give it sunlight, water, fertilizer, and attention. Check on your investment and hard work; make sure the future shade you planted is growing strong and healthy. I DARE YOU, to make a difference!

Are you sure you're a Man?

I have had enough of boys trying to be men. Now I’m sure you want to know what I’m talking about. Well just last week, I was in a social environment and an ex acquaintance came in with his new victim of the evening. We acknowledged each other and kept moving along.

After he got full of alcohol (Problem 1) he decided, at that moment it would be a good time to approach me and have a secret conversation (Problem 2).

Did I happen to mention that I was conversing with a gentleman at the time? Well needless to say, my ex deciding to ease right behind me and whisper in my ear (Problem 3). Only to talk about how much he liked my past sexual performances (Problem 4).

Now let me address all problems with the following statement. GROW UP, BOY!!!

Real Men can control their liquor and their actions. I know that alcohol can lose any inhibitions but then why would you have inhibitions with someone you’ve been with already? I really need for the boys of the world to respect the women they are with and respect the company that I keep.

Real Men would not openly disrespect any woman they walk into an establishment with. If you are with her, be with her. You chose her so deal with the bed you made. Don’t be disrespectful because she will sense it and eventually turn bitter. She will then run up on a good man and not recognize him. She will miss her blessing because of your retarded actions. Get a clue boys if you feel you don’t have a good woman that is probably because you are not a Man. You attract what you release.

Real Men would not have to secretly talk to anybody. They would be confident in their actions. They would also have nothing to hide from because they wouldn’t be out of line.
Get a clue, you make this dating thing much harder than it needs to be with all your sneaking.

Real Men don’t have a need to talk about how well your sexual performances were. That is a dead give-away that all you want from the woman you are talking to is sex. If you can’t find anything better to talk about then you are limited in your development.

Real Men can talk about more than just sex. They also know more about life than just sex.
If I would have slapped the taste out his mouth then I would have been wrong, but at least for once I would have been satisfied. You are an EX for a reason, not a season, but for a lifetime.

Come to terms with that and move on. Real Women don’t play with other folks kids. Please let the testicles hang, walk with some pride and represent a character of undisputable decorum. If you don’t want a crackhead, then stop acting like one.

This is my opinion and you are welcome to express your own. I Dare You!